Effective Diaper Domination
Of the many ways to capture and dominate your favorite sub, male or female, is the use of diapers which also offers unique potential. Unlike traditional bondage equipment, which cannot usually be worn in public, diapers are generally hidden and if discovered (intentionally or by accident) are presumed to be present due to medical necessity. Therefore there is considerably more flexibility with diaper bondage and less chance of undue attention from the authorities.
Traditional bondage serves to restrict a sub’s mobility. Since it is in the very nature of human beings to move, each time a sub attempts to find a more comfortable position, it is reminded that the Top has removed this privilege and that it is under the Top’s control. But aside from having been restricted, the sub’s sense of self is generally intact. If invasive devices such as dildos are used, the sub may feel penetrated by the top but this effect is limited in its duration by bodily functions, among other considerations.
Diaper bondage is unique in that while the sub’s body is not normally penetrated (but this can be added easily) it is the sense of self that is under control of the Top. Toilet training is a cornerstone of our psychological processes. So much has been written about its ramifications for adult life that little need be mentioned here. The effect of diaper bondage is to defeat toilet training, almost always against the sub’s will. The injunctions against wetting and/or soiling oneself are the strongest known to us. Therefore, when a sub is confined to diapers for an extended period, these injunctions are confronted within the subconscious of the sub’s mind, causing anxiety, turmoil and identification of the Top as a parent figure.
This serves the Top’s interests well. The parent figure in our psyche is a giver of comfort, nourishment, and a dispenser of discipline. Since most children learn that rebellion against the parent’s authority is futile; a child posture in the sub can be pleasing for the Top. One of the objectives of effective diaper domination is to use discomfort and embarrassment to push the sub to a point where it will appeal the Top’s use of diapers and control can then be further enforced.
A sub in diapers is no less dependent on the Top than if it were in bondage. As soon as the diapers are pinned and the plastic panties in place the sub realizes that she or he has been deprived of the most basic and private decision of adult life — when and how to relieve oneself. It will not, at first, occur to the sub that attempting to refrain from elimination will be futile, that it is the Top’s plan and desire that the sub suffer forced incontinence. The sub will, instead, be initially concerned with the strange feelings of the diaper such as the bulk between the legs which alters its walk and the growing heat caused by the plastic panties. The second concern of the sub will be its appearance. We are an image-based society and the sub will have cultivated a personal image, which includes some degree of vanity. Forcing an obviously diapered adult to mingle with the public forces the victim to re-evaluate this image, causing more anxiety and distress. The Top may take some assurance that anyone who guesses the cause of the bulges under the sub’s clothing will presume an innocent reason, but the sub has no such comfort. Every strange look, every whispered comment will torture the sub with the suspicion that someone has guessed that he or she is wearing diapers and therefore less of an adult.
The most common objection to the use of diapers is that the sub’s genitals are bundled out of reach and use by the Top. While this is true, it is only an obstacle when the session is intended to remain indoors. As soon as privacy is lost, so too is the opportunity to fondle the sub intimately. Diaper bondage offers the prospect of intense psychological effect on the sub during intervals when even traditional bondage would be impractical.
Males and females react differently to the prospect of being forcibly confined in diapers. While this likely has its roots in male vs. female ego, there are some simpler explanations. Males depend on being able to see their genitals to confirm their presence and state. Women’s genitals are hidden and she must rely on internal sensations to judge their condition, therefore it is not a new sensation for her to be denied visual contact with her organs. A second point is that all women of childbearing age are, in essence, incontinent for several days each month. The menstrual cycle is a closely guarded subject normally amongst us women and we are often raised with injunctions to the effect that we are not to give any indication that we are menstruating, discuss the subject with men, or otherwise acknowledge it as a normal bodily function. “Discretion” is the key word as the woman chooses the pads or tampons necessary to preserve her clothing. A recent tampon advertisement criticized napkins (sanitary towels) for “feeling like diapers”, and no doubt this is true, considering that both disposable diapers and feminine pads must feel alike to the sensitive vulva. Therefore for a woman the prospect of being diapered offers little novelty. She is used to having to care for an uncontrolled release of fluid from her body and taking great pains to conceal the activity from everyone else. This helps to explain that female diaper fetishists are rare (but much sought after by males of the same persuasion).
Males lack this training in incontinence and its camouflage. They also lack the convenience of full skirts to hide the bulges under clothing. Even the slimmest diaper on a male will cause obvious changes to his outline. And since, as has been demonstrated, this outline is a key element of his self-perception, it is here that the Top begins to make inroads in domination.
Masters and Mistresses wishing to obtain the basic necessities for diaper domination will not have to look far. There is a wide range of adult disposable diapers available at most drug stores. While effective for their intended use, such diapers are usually not absorbent or thick enough to serve well in diaper domination. Plastic pants can be had from medical supply stores and are a definite necessity both for their practical and psychological properties. Disposable adult diapers may be supplemented with unbacked disposables which permit drainage into the outer diaper. This adds extra bulk between the legs, which is necessary to provide the discomfort that is a fundamental element of the process. On the subject of discomfort and disposable diapers of all types. Most manufactures go to great lengths to ensure the wearer feels comfortable and ‘dry’ in their products and this is done by them using a special ‘dry’ top layer. It is important that your sub can actually feel when they wet themselves (imagine that!). The use of a simple single thickness cotton liner or a thicker cotton diaper insert is all that is required to conveniently defeated this innovation. Do not be tempted to use the 100% polyester liners that are sold as they too are completely non-absorbent, and so provide just as an affective stay-dry layer as already fitted.
Cloth diapers are easily made although they can be purchased – See LINKS PAGE for suppliers. Generally about four can be made from cutting up a single size flannel bed sheet. Normal baby pins can be used but some purists purchase women’s kilt pins to provide a larger, more babyish fastener. Two toddler disposables, taped end to end, and placed inside the cloth diaper increase absorbency and offer protection from soiling. Purpose made pads like the Abri-let Maxi by Abena. Different sizes are available but this one being 16 x 61 cm makes it ideal for this purpose and they can be used on their own if desired for light protection. Pads of this nature are normal offered by the maker with and without plastic backing so check before ordering.
Whatever the materials used the primary objective for the Top using diapers on a sub are discomfort, visibility, efficiency, and security. Here we can use the five basic senses to guide our play very effectively … sight, hearing, touch, smell and taste.
Discomfort serves to remind the diapered subject that she or he is indeed in diapers and will, sooner or later, be forced to use them for eliminations. All diapers are uncomfortable to an adult unused to wearing them but this discomfort can be increased through a variety of simple measures.
The first discomfort enhancer is bulk. Here we are using the sense touch, especially between the legs. Bulk can be accomplished by adding extra diapers to the crotch of the diaper (cloth or disposable respectively) thus forming a soaker panel which is rigid enough not to be compressed by the sub’s walking action. In fact, it will force the sub to walk slightly bow-legged in a manner best described as a waddle. The sub will be unable to escape this pressure between the legs, which in the male especially can be quite uncomfortable. When walking the male’s inner thighs will chafe on the diaper and when sitting the extra bulk will be pressed against his genitals. This latter effect is especially useful for long trips on public transit when the male has no choice but to sit and endure whatever his Top has put on him. So the first sense we can use is touch but it can be used in other ways additional restraints, flogging or patting the diapered butt for example.
The second discomfort enhancer again associated with the touch sense is heat. The presence of plastic panties will cause a trapping of body heat and the resulting perspiration will with little effort make a diaper damp and uncomfortable. The amount of heat retained can be increased by doubling up with disposable diapers and adding an extra pair(s) of plastic panties or bloomers. These measures, in turn, can be amplified by coating the diaper area with Vaseline, which impedes perspiration. (Do not get any Vaseline on plastic articles as it will cause them to crack and harden). Consideration may also be given to restrictive clothing such as girdles. It should be noted that most disposable adult diapers become very itchy when worn for extended periods. Therefore extended confinement in them, especially with some of the other measures discussed, will have your sub squirming and begging for relief within hours, whether it has wet and soiled or not.
The remaining discomfort enhancers are used occasionally, for special sessions or punishments. Mustard plaster on the rear cheeks is effective as a long-term punishment since the resulting burn will last several days whether the sub is diapered or not. Shaving the pubic hair is favored as a routine discomfort enhancement since the sub is unable to scratch at the predictable itch and is usually forbidden to touch its diapers and plastic pants. Plus shaving your subs pubes makes cleanup easier too!
Butt and vaginal plugs, especially those with harnesses are often used to create a background haze of discomfort and forestall soiling when it is not desired. A sub diapered in this manner will appear dazed and distracted, which may attract more attention from the public. Such devices are especially useful when the sub may normally be required to change its own diapers say on an aircraft, thus providing itself some limited comfort while being constantly reminded that you the Top is still in control.
A Top’s second consideration when confining a sub to diapers is visibility and here we use the sense of sight. While adult diaper manufacturers have worked strenuously to make their products less obtrusive, these efforts must be defeated if the sub is to suffer humiliation in public (real or imagined). In summer this is often accomplished by the use of shorts with a male sub that are too small to cover all of the plastic panties. Thus the sub must confront the reality that his secret is always open to viewing should anyone look closely enough. In winter the sub should be forced to wear pants that allow the diaper bulge to show prominently and no top coat should be allowed.
Diaper visibility in female requires different strategies. Skirts that are short enough to allow brief glimpses of the bulging plastic panties are fine for summer. Shorts with very wide leg openings are also useful, especially if the female is to be taken shopping for shoes, in which situation the clerk would get an unimpeded view of her diapered crotch. In winter a female could be forced to wear a garter belt and stockings under a skirt that is both too tight and slit too high to conceal either her garters or her plastic panties. If the stockings are seamed, with reinforced heels, she will attract a lot of attention from males, to her distress.
When at home, both male and female subs should not be permitted any covering over their diapers unless it is of a disciplinary or control nature. The shirt-and-diapers uniform is common to toddlers because it offers the ability to instantly discern the condition of the wearers diaper, no less is true of the diapered sub. A secondary benefit is that the sub is forced to see its diapers all the time, knowing they cannot be removed or altered without intervention from you the Top. In this state of undress, the sub should be forced to perform chores, which may result in them being observed by strangers. These can be in the form of retrieving the morning paper, hanging out the laundry, or being outside sunbathing for a suitable length of time. A diaper provides a much more modest cover for the lower body than any swimsuit bottom or G-string would do so in the end what is the problem? Visibility can be further increased by the use of colored and/or patterned panties which catch the observers eye more readily.
Some activities require additional clothing. A sub sent to do the laundry in a Laundromat or apartment laundry should be dressed in too-small shorts and
a shirt that is cut short enough to ride up the back as soon as the sub bends over. This exposes the top of the plastic pants, especially if they are colored as the sub’s instinctive reaction is to keep pulling the shirt down which merely attracts more attention. Sight is sometimes the most overestimated sense of the five. In fact, in familiar surroundings, it often fails to give as much input as we expect so constant efforts in this area must be made. Ever looked for your keys only to have someone else find them right out in the open where you already looked? Sight ‘takes for granted’ the things it expects to see in an environment so you the Top needs to ensure the state of the sub is beyond question. When sight of your sub is blocked, however, its other senses heighten to make up for the loss. This is part of the fight or flight response. Peripheral vision, that is, seeing something out of the corner of the eye, can become very acute when a sub is under stress and it can be very unnerving to see something move in and out repeatedly from their field of vision, especially when they are restrained or blindfold.
Disposable diapers and well-worn plastic pants can be noisy and here we are looking at the sense of hearing. The crackling sounds can be quite loud and attract attention from passersby in shopping malls and airports. In addition, these materials are noisy to take off and put on, so if your sub must change its diaper in a public washroom it will not be possible to for it to do so discreetly. Hearing is also important to the general scene certainly in the way you as the Top gives commands. Sounds like the rustle of rubber or plastic, water running, the clank of metal all heighten awareness. The Top thinking to phrase simple questions like, ‘how are our plastic panties then?’ ‘Have we soiled our diaper then?’ can be effective on two levels. The first is the simple question which must of course be answered fully, do not accept a simple yes or no. The deeper one is induced by the use of words like ‘our’ and ‘we’. You the Top, are further reinforcing your control as the sub will be well aware that only it is directly affected by the diaper and the ‘our’ and ‘we’ only serves indicates who controls the regime. When a person is subject to sensory deprivation, hearing is, an open door to the subconscious. The subconscious is the place where dreams are made, and it detests gaps in information. If it has only half a story, it will make the rest up… so, if your sub can’t see you, but perhaps can feel you near, and hear you laugh. The mind will make up the reason you are laughing.
Another element to noticability is smell. Adult diaper companies do not yet add fragrances to their products but this is no impediment to the ambitious Top. Males are especially susceptible to the torment of being sent out into public with the sweet fragrances of scented Vaseline, baby powder and lotion preceding him like a cloud. There are two available from http://www.mommiesscents.com/ which enable you to recreate those familiar aromas from childhood. Mommies Diaper Fresh Scent and Mommies Powder Fresh Scent are two scents designed to make a diaper or just about anything you want smell just like original baby diapers or the sweet, aroma of baby powder. Any sub subjected to these will be very aware of perfumed cloud that surrounds them and have no way of avoiding it! Of course, if desired, the sub can be made to soil itself (laxatives and suppositories are useful) and this is the most humiliating visibility factor of all. As a punishment glycerin suppositories are very effective. Simply restrain your sub diapered on a bed spread-eagled, administer 3 –4 suppositories and simply leave them to it for an hour or so with the command they must remain clean or else. It is effective and your sub will need punishing for that I am sure. Having added extra bulk, several pairs of plastic panties and perhaps double diapers, the competent Top has already addressed many concerns for efficiency. However long trips, extended punishment periods or the deliberate cultivation of diaper rash require innovation. In situations where the sub must be capable of changing its diaper, such as on an aircraft, it is possible to keep the sub wet and safe at the same time. You have a choice of using either a cloth or a disposable diaper to accomplishes this. If a cloth diaper is used, fit it as normal but sew the cloth diaper on so the sub cannot remove it (you may wish to insert a butt plug before doing so) but do use pins to take the strain off the thread. If a disposable is being used, pierce the outer plastic cover with numerous small cuts to allow drainage and secure it on with several around the waist passes of wide packing tape or better still silver duct tape. Make sure the tape is very snug because the diaper will sag when wet, allowing the sub to remove and replace it. In both cases an additional cloth or disposable diaper is now fastened over the first diaper and plastic or rubber pants added. When necessary, the sub can be sent to change its self with the instruction not to remove the first diaper. They will not become dry, nor will they have an opportunity to play with themselves. The sense of smell can be further used by the simple reuse of soiled waterproof pants. (I always keep a pair of wet panties handy for this reason and for use as a punishment by fitting them over my subs head-make the punishment fit the crime?) The sub will initially be comfortable after their diaper change but will be reminded constantly of their eventual condition. Obviously don’t forget to reinforce this by reminding them of this by using the hearing sense to constantly remind them of their ‘smelly’ condition. Taste is probably the least used sense in diaper bondage. It is however closely related to smell, and in fact, it is not possible for your sub to taste when it cannot smell. Pinching the nose closed works to help get your sub to swallow noxious medicines like castor oil, try it.
If efficiency is a concern, the use of bloomer style plastic pants may be effective. These extend part way down the leg and while helpful in preventing occasional leaking, are very uncomfortable, especially in summer. These pants are often used for punishment purposes. When placed on females wearing a short skirt or a male in white cotton shorts it is almost impossible to conceal them properly.
The element of security is concerned with the ability of the sub to alter or escape the punishment of wearing diapers. This is unacceptable and must be prevented at all costs. There are two strategies, to secure the diaper, or to secure the clothing, which covers it.
Securing the diaper allows the sub to be kept in the state of half-undress described earlier. It is also useful if the sub is to be displayed to the Top’s friends or is sleeping away from home and the customary bed restraints. It allows the sub’s hands to be free, permitting the assignment of chores. Generally a chastity belt design is used with a wide crotch band secured to a sturdy belt. The lock may be discreet or not at the mistress’s pleasure. Such a device increases the discomfort of the diaper, makes soiling more unpleasant and can forestall attempts at masturbation through the diaper. It may be used on both males and females but the former will suffer more from its effects. Among its disadvantages are that it can tear the plastic pants and that a male can sometimes gain access to his genitals through a leg opening unmonitored allowing urination.
Securing the clothing which covers the diaper is more efficient in preventing masturbation but can be less convenient in other areas. Total body cover suits can be locked at the neck with a small lock and are deliberately made to prevent access to the genital area. This will prevent the sub from removing the garments you have put on it and also playing with itself. Many types of this sort of garment are available as they are used in hospitals and the like. Homemade items can be trimmed and styled as you like and if based on shorts, chains at the cuffs will prevent access from that point. Such chains can be discreet, if necessary. Further reading on this subject HERE .
An alternative is to use pantyhose on both males and females. A stout pair of control top should be used. The garment is placed on the male and then a fine wire or chain is passed through the waistband and locked. The male cannot get access from the leg openings and there is the additional benefit of compression from the girdle-like panty. Males especially are humiliated by being made to wear pantyhose. Forcing your male to go out in public wearing only shorts over his hosiery or alternatively wearing slacks can enhance this but also sandals which reveal his secret to all whom happen to look down. Since there is no plausible reason for a male to be wearing hosiery, the potential for extreme embarrassment is high. If pantyhose are used on a female, use of the seamed variety will be effective; bloomer style panties would add to her distress, especially if the skirt was short. A point to remember though that any cloth garments can be ripped and sharp instruments like scissors can make short work of removing even the most secure garment but you will know that interference has taken place and can react accordingly.
Once the sub is securely bound in diapers and plastic pants the Top’s concern turns to measures, which will aggravate the sub’s condition. Excessive fluid intake, diuretics and laxatives are the most common measures adopted. In the case of fluids, the properly diapered sub, left alone, will have no choice but to wet its diapers. This can be rewarding for the Top especially during the first few occasions when diapers are used. The sub fights its toilet training all the while knowing that the inevitable cannot be forestalled. Unfortunately, subs usually become accustomed to wetting within a few weeks and there is no longer any entertainment value for the Top in this act. At this stage the Top may wish to insert a catheter into the sub before diapers are applied, thus forcing true incontinence. Again, the initial results are pleasing, since the sub is rendered into a true incontinent state. Remember that prolonged use of catheters can cause infection and that these devices forestall ejaculation in the male.
The decision of whether or not to force a sub to soil itself depends on the preferences of the Top. Remember the sub can perform the necessary cleansing operations and be punished if the cleansing operation is not thorough. Forced soiling can produce spectacular results in a novice sub and should be experienced at least once to judge its value. Since all subs attempt to avoid the experience of soiling, some encouraging measures may be required. Generally the process of moving the bowels will be enhanced with the additional fluid intake, but if immediate results are required, 3 or 4 glycerin suppositories work wonders. An alternative is to begin feeding bulk laxative to the sub approximately 24 hours before diaper confinement is to begin. Each administration of the laxative reminds the sub of the punishment to come and the fact that it will be made to soil. This may result in whining and begging-off on the part of the sub, which the Top may wish to address once the session has begun.
A soiled diaper on an adult gives off a distinct aroma. Unless severe humiliation, in the form of knowledgeable attention from the public, is desired, soiled subs should be kept at least 15 feet aware from innocent by-standers. One of the most rewarding aspects of forcing a sub to soil while diapered is the knowledge that it confronts one of the major injunctions of psychological development and causes tremendous anxiety in the sub. A wet diaper can feel like a wet bathing suit but the adult sub will not have experienced the sensations of a dirty diaper since being a small child. The knowledge that it has messed itself and is unable to do anything about it until you the Top agrees, will torture unmercifully.
Soiling is most traumatic for a sub during the first hour after messing. During this time the sub will be aware of little else but the condition of its diaper and the strange sensation of its own effluent being spread about inside it. However beyond this initial phase, there is little to be gained by prolonged confinement in the messy diaper unless a rash is desired or the sub is being forced to sleep in its mess as a punishment. Cleansing operations are generally easier if attempted as soon as possible.
Sub’s will become accustomed to soiling if subjected to the procedure on a regular basis. A Top wishing to avoid this may choose to make the process more uncomfortable or difficult with the use of butt plugs, chastity-type retention belts, or tight clothing. Forcing the sub to soil while in semi-public places or in the presence of friends of the Top is also very effective. In the latter case the sub may be secured outside for a time in consideration of the comfort of the guests.
Diaper domination makes use of some equipment, which might not be found in routine male training situations. Fortunately this equipment is light and portable and therefore lends itself to travel and over-night use.
The most important aspect of diaper bondage is that the sub must be rendered helpless to adjust, change or remove its diapers. The security devices discussed earlier are effective but are not always appropriate. The most common long-term bondage appliances are rigid mittens, which limit the use of the hands and restrictive clothing.
Medical restraints are available without question from medical supply stores or you may fabricate them. Any design that keeps the hand from being able to grasp and prevents use of the fingers and which may be fastened securely is acceptable. Without the use of its hands or fingers, the sub is helpless to affect its diapered condition. The sub may be left alone in the house suitably restrained and able to perform only limited functions. It may, for instance, be able to answer the phone but dialing out is impossible. Sub’s in this condition will certainly attempt masturbation in the form of rubbing themselves through their diapers. Since the sensations produced if correctly diapered in this manner merely remind the sub of its diapered condition, it may be allowed. The sub may also be told that evidence of masturbation (most obvious in the male) will be punished severely. A useful tell-tail of masturbation, if the sub is in disposable diapers, is the condition of the paper wadding which makes up the diaper core in the area of the genitals. It this is This is a sure sign that masturbation has at least been attempted. There are various products on the market which can aid in this and Checkmate is effective and recommended. The use of only mittens to restrain a male can produce unexpected and yet pleasing results since the sub feels quite free but yet is prevented from the one thing it wants most, to be out of its uncomfortable diapers.
Restrictive clothing is used most often when the sub is being put down for the night. A straight jacket is the most effective garment to use but anything which securely encloses the diapered area and or restricts the wearers limbs is good. One-piece sleepers are most effective here since the sense of confinement adds to the effects of having been forced to wear and use diapers. If rigid mittens have not been incorporated into the garment they may be added to prevent the sub from removing the garment during the night. Sleepers should if possible cover the feet, be cut generously in the crotch and fasten at the back of the neck. The ability to lock the main zipper is handy but not necessary if mittens and a simple tie are used.
A brief word about punishment—always make it fit the crime.
One of the primary advantages of diaper domination and bondage is that a “scene” may be protracted over several days or weeks without undue wear on either the mistress or the sub. Since, aside from being kept in diapers, the sub is able to function normally; there is no need to end a scene in order to provide for nourishment or rest. Therefore scenes can be integrated into normal life, such as the sub being made to attend cocktail parties, sporting events, theatre, and social evenings while in diapers. Each of these situations presents the sub with a different set of potential opportunities for discovery. Longer outings will, of course, require a change of diapers and the diaper bag being present is often a major embarrassment in itself. Regular and frequent physical checks of the diapers should be made with the aim to humiliate and enforce in the mind of the wearer your control over his or his body. Don’t forget the senses, hearing? Ask questions in the third person like, ‘how are our rubbers then?.’ Do we need changing?’ ‘Are our plastic panties uncomfortable?’ Follow these with lots of pats on the butt, fussing and adjusting or pulling up of the garments.
Diaper domination is most effective when the sub is kept sexually aroused but denied orgasms. Oral servicing of you the Top will see to your needs but I cannot stress highly enough that your sub should be kept sexually frustrated. The unusual sensations on and around the genitals will help, as will often the enforced humiliation. I would strongly advise that you be prepared to stimulate your sub when rewards are due just to the point of orgasm as this will reinforce the pleasure/pain aspects of true diaper domination. If you are concerned that your sub is achieving orgasm I would suggest an increase in the padding used and/or the use of a chastity device. For female subs these, when used under a diaper even a relatively simple belt will prove very frustrating to the wearer and thus very effective. For a male sub I would recommend only the CB2000 device at the moment. The wise Top will show compassion when it is called for, but will never allow it to be the occasion for relaxing the routine of diaper discipline or for moderating the punishments that the recipients constantly attract.
Once you start your must be determined in your task and not ease off. Your sub will most certainly try to challenge you and try and avoid the discipline. This is where harsh and strict punishment needs to be applied and with maybe a little Petticoat Discipline which works well for both sexes. If Diaper Domination is done correctly the final result will be a charming, decorative, demure and compliant sub who will be a credit to you.
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